• vanessa gomez


Updated: May 19

2019 was undoubtedly the year of 'self-care/love'. everywhere you turned you would see a post, picture, article, etc. talkin' about what self-care is and how to do it; listing anything from taking a bath while having a face mask on and drinking a glass of wine to participating in a form of exercise that you ACTUALLY enjoy as kinds of self-care and/or self-love.

I think one of my favorite quotes that I saw was 'skincare IS self-care'.🙈

now, while I am a huge advocate for self-care and self-love (the love part is something that I'm probably still workin' on personally if I'm being honest), and I am happy that this movement is being carried into 2020, I think there are some very authentic ways to show yourself love and compassion and practice self-care outside of the gym or your bathroom vanity.

here they are:

let 'it' go

the 'it' is all relative. and you know exactly what I'm talkin' about when you read that statement. grudges, toxic relationships, the need for the approval of others, THE PAST; whatever you're still holding on to that's taking up room, but not filling you up in a loving, energetic way. toss it.

as soon as you empty yourself of whatever your 'it' is, you give yourself the space to be filled with something uplifting, encouraging, and maybe even life changing. that my dear is truly caring for yourself.

be patient with yourself

we all have plans, ideas, visions of where we want to be, what we want to be accomplishing, and how we want our lives to look. and while in general these are not bad things to have--they're essential even--sometimes we put a deadline or expectation on it, and when it doesn't happen in that allotted time, or the way we want it to, it discourages us. so please be patient with your process and your path. there's no need to rush, even though we live in a very RIGHT NOW! kind of world. take a step back, and take a deep breath. continue to dream, and work towards them, but don't let yourself get too caught up in the end result. just go with the flow and enjoy the journey. it'll take take the edge off and ease the stress, and de-stressing is one of the best ways to practice self-care.

listen to your body

this goes beyond taking an off day from working out because you're too sore. your body is constantly telling you what it wants and what it needs. just gotta listen! If you need an extra 30 minutes of sleep, do it. If eating a certain food or drinking something in particular doesn't have you feelin' the greatest after, avoid it. and that one is sometimes hard because if it's something that we enjoy eating we try to 'tough it out' because it tastes good so we eat it anyways and 'pay for it later'. I'm guilty of it too, trust me, I just can't keep ice cream in the house.🤣

start taking steps to be more in tune with what your body is saying and honor it because if you take care of your body, it'll take care of you!

give yourself room to grow

sometimes we've done something or been a certain way for so long that we don't see any other way, even though it isn't bringing us joy or helping us become the best version of ourselves. so I encourage you to explore. get out of your comfort zone, try something new, or maybe pick something back up that you used to love and be passionate about but gave up for whatever reason. the more you learn, the more you grow, even if that's just learning (or re-learning) about yourself. allowing yourself to blossom rather than remaining a bud is one of the truest ways to show yourself some love.

allow yourself to believe bigger

I'd be lying if I said that this thought wasn't influenced by a book I just finished reading called 'believe bigger' by marshawn evans daniels. the pages of this book spoke such life and truth into my life that I felt the need to share it.

often times we create these boxes within our lives and within our minds about who we are and what we should be doing (or are allowed to do) based on our experiences and/or what people have said to us throughout our lives. it's within these boxes that we manifest self-doubt and even fear of being able to do anything else; the author calls this the voice of little me. she encouraged me, and i'm passing on said encouragement to break down those walls and silence little me to listen to the nudges you may feel that are telling you that there's more for you; that voice is future me.

now this takes practice for sure, and it's not without difficulty, but very similar to giving yourself room to grow, give your self room to believe! believe in your wild ideas, believe in seemingly impossible dreams, and believe in yourself. there's no greater show of love than that.

I hope this lifted you up and provided some encouragement for you this week.

thanks so much for reading.

talk soon!💕

#selfcare #selflove #wellness #lifestyle

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